I served in the British Army and generally wear a poppy in the week before Remembrance Sunday, to remember the dead of past conflicts and their grieving families.
To me, this remembrance is not about militarism, but rather about the human suffering caused by war, as reflected by the nature of Remembrance monuments and ceremonies -
The Cenotaph - literally an "empty tomb" - is a funereal, not triumphant monument.
The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier - an ordinary man, but the only grave in Westminster Abbey that is never walked over. During the burial in 1920, the front rows in the Abbey were allocated to women who had lost their husbands and all their sons. The thoughts of these women would have been of loss and grief, not militarism.
To my mind, it is very unfortunate that, for some people in Ireland, the poppy has aquired connotations of triumphant militarism. To me, it remains a symbol of the loss and grief of conflict - including those of all sides whose lives were lost in our conflict here. But in order to honour the original meaning of the poppy, I have decided to wear it in Northern Ireland only if doing so is acceptable to all significant strands of opinion.
So please have your say. If you ask me to do so, I will not wear a poppy in Northern Ireland (other than during the Church service on Remembrance Day itself).