One of their sons, Mark, said that what the family wanted was for the display of goodwill shown at the funeral to be harnessed and help build a "true peace"....
"When Gerry Adams left the church there was not a word, not a sound, the people from that community respected that Gerry Adams was able to come and pay his respects, and they respected the man for doing it, I think," he said.
Jeanette said that on that day, implacable opposites had come together under one roof to share the family's grief and she praise Mr Adams for attending.
"I thought he was very brave in doing that - coming into a Protestant heartland, he could never have known the reception he would have received," she said.
"I thought that was great generosity of spirit.
"He did it I imagine without thinking of himself, out of respect for David and to sympathise with his family and I thought that was really big of him."