Here’s the thing. Some people are bigoted. Some are homophobic. Some people oppose gay marriage on that basis and they should be called out on it. And even where someone’s not starting off with outright bigotry, where their opposition essentially boils down to a view that gay couples or relationships are inherently inferior, then that deserves to be called out.
Morals are entirely subjective. If you consider that I am immoral for being gay, then I’m not going to convince you otherwise and don’t especially feel the need to. The thing is, there is a legitimate concern, plenty of people who wonder about the interests of children in gay marriage etc. I’m happy to address those concerns. But those who base their opposition to gay marriage on a moral code of thinking homosexuality is wrong are not going to be convinced, and again, I have no problem in calling them out on pretty blatant bigotry.The main difficulty the gay community have here is that legally, of course you are entitled to your 'human rights' but morally you are on very shaky ground but yet ye do nothing to dispel those fears.
That’s not actually true. One of the strongest arguments for gay marriage is to provide legal protection for children already being raised by gay couples. It is just not true to say that those advocating for gay marriage are uninterested in the rights of children. Again, either you’re not very engaged in the debate or are deliberately misleading about the basis for gay marriage.One of the most common objections I get, esp in the area of children, is that while you are fighting for YOUR rights, you are ignoring the rights of children.
There are two issues here – one is the question of whether a child should have the influence of both male and female in their lives. The second is whether a child raised by a homosexual couple will have difficulty with their own sexuality.I think it is preferable that children are reared by, ideally, a man and woman, not by one or the other but by both. Children pick up on their parents behaviour and if there natural instinct is towards heterosexuality what is to say that the mixed messages might not affect them.
On the first – I absolutely agree that a child should have both male and female influences on their lives. That’s why I would hope that the children of a single mother, for example, would have male relatives from whom to learn and to whom they can talk etc. I also believe that same-sex couples should ensure that their wider family and social networks are such that their children will have a wide network of family with different perspectives who they can develop good relationships with. I think the same is true for straight parents, by the way. Which is why when I have kids with my partner, I will be ensuring that they have good relationships with their grandmothers, aunts and female cousins. What you are claiming is that the very fact of being same sex should exclude couples from parentage, while ignoring that ALL parents carry things that make them good parents and things they need to improve on. If parents are very non-academic, they would be well served making up for that by ensuring their kids have a good relationship with an academic-minded relative. If they’re non-sporting, likewise. There is not a single set of parents that can offer their child everything. That’s why kids thrive in wider families, where they have relationships with lots of people with different strengths.
On the second, frankly, it is ridiculous. A child growing up with gay parents will be taught from the offset that some people like people of their own gender and some people like people of the opposite gender, and that that’s fine and normal. They will grow up seeing straight couples as well as gay, and they will usually have the support they need whatever their sexuality.
Aside from that being raised by gay parents has no bearing on a child being gay or not, I’d have no problem with having a gay or a straight child. Would you?Until the majority answer Yes to this question, then Gay marriage will not happen in this country. ????Would you want your children to be gay????